Working with teenage and preteen girls hear a lot of chatter about LOOKs.
My youth are always concerned by how they LOOK.
They are concerned that they have the right clothes, the right hair, and are the right size.
They are concerned with how people view them. Do they view them as all put together, always having things in control? Or do they view them as a spaz or someone who is falling apart.
We had a discussion in class one day about masks that we wear. We
talked attempted to talk about being real, being honest and letting people see the real person behind the mask.
Why would they let people see when they are having a rough day?
Why would they let people know that things aren’t ok?
Thats not how they were raised.
People would think that they didn’t have it all together.
I would love to say that we all grow out of this phase. This phase of being SO concerned with what other people say. But we don’t do we? Even as grown women we still struggle with what other people think of us.
I see grown women buying clothes from the juniors section, so they don’t LOOK like they are too out of touch.
Makeup is probably easily one of the most bought things by women and girls. Why? Because we need to hide the flaws of who we are.
But none of that matters does it? We all struggle, we all have bad days, we all have wrinkles, scars and imperfections. And we are no less loved by God because we have them. We are no less valued or important because we have them.
If we are all imperfect then why do we all try so hard to be seen as perfect? Why do we try so badly to LOOK like we have it all together?
So my challenge to you: don’t let the way you LOOK define who you are, be who you are, because you are loved exactly for who you are and what you LOOK like.